People practice celibacy for a number of reasons ranging from religious to personal choice.
Personally, I hadn’t declared myself celibate but I did take “breaks” in between each man that I dated.
I enjoy intimacy just as much as the next person but always applaud other people’s choice to abstain from sex.
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Understandably, not everyone is interested in dating or finding a partner, however I do find that these places can be quite useful in meeting like-minded people.
Still be wary though, not all sites are going to be completely free of perverted and sex deprived people.
So, you’ve made the decision to abstain from sex until marriage? You are dating while celibate and you’ve joined many other singles who have made this personal and spiritual choice, including Meagan Good and Tamara Mowry who both decided to become celibate while they were dating.
While I celebrate your courage to make this choice, I know you may feel like it’s almost impossible to find someone who respects your values and is willing to grow with you as you move forward in your relationship.
You also may have some questions about how to talk about sex with the person you’re dating. Also, you’ll want to clearly state your requirements. It’s important to make this distinction because you don’t want to associate sex with shame or guilt in your mind or the mind of your potential partner.
I want to help you stick with your decision and find a person who is willing to walk this journey with you by giving you 3 tips for having the conversation about celibacy with the person you’re dating. If you’re abstaining until marriage, make sure that you share this, otherwise the other person may have an expectation that they can change your mind! You also don’t want the other person to feel like you’re punishing them because of your decision to abstain.
When the topic of sex comes up with the person you’re dating, explain why you decided to become celibate. You’re looking forward to enjoying sex at the right time and with the right person and you can share that in your conversations. Myles Munroe: “Sex was given by God to help express love, not to create it.” Whether you’re in the beginning stages of a new relationship or you’ve decided to become celibate while you’re already in a relationship, you must be prepared for the consequences of that choice.