So while I can’t personally identify with guys who are shut-off from love, I can acknowledge one thing: they keep me in business. Even when I was in my ten-year-online-dating-slut phase, I always wanted to fall in love.And yet, today, I’m going to continue to do my part to put myself out of business, by sharing this really well-written piece from Single Black on what emotionally unavailable men are thinking and doing when you’re dating them.
) Here are a handful of excellent take-aways that I want you to internalize ASAP, so you will no longer waste time on another dead-end guy: 1.
Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s dead.
It means he’s not serious about falling in love at this point.
“Now the fact that we are emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean that we’re no longer desirous of a woman’s attention and affection.
No matter how much we want to, we can’t build up the motivation to give you everything if we know you’ve been content with us giving you barely anything.
We need to be challenged, we need to know that you’ll accept nothing less than everything.” This is why I tell you repeatedly to act like the CEO and treat men like interns. It’s all valid and acceptable, but consider this, I’ve turned down the handful of date requests from decent guys I’ve gotten over the past year .
If he’s not showing up and you’re putting up with it, it’s not his fault. You can’t expect him to value you like a girlfriend if you don’t insist on being treated like a proper girlfriend. I feel that all the posturing and self abnegation involved in thinking like a man and “being a challenge” has conditioned me to want men less and less to the point where I won’t even go out with anyone. Aside from the long term male friendships I have, I’ve never been so thoroughly turned off by the idea of a man’s company. Maybe it’s just a phase, but I’m curious to know if this is an extreme felt by any other women on here.
Social networking websites are causing alarming changes in the brains of young users, an eminent scientist has warned.
It also doesn’t mean we’ve lost the ability to perceive attractiveness and beauty and it most definitely doesn’t mean we’re no longer interested in sex.