What I was referring to is our natural human tendency to latch onto new things and truly believe they're going to be something they can't be.
We react to our disillusionment with online dating like a jilted lover, or more accurately, like online dating is a matchmaker who (in our minds) guaranteed us success in finding us a new partner, but then took our money and let us down, so out indignant reaction is to fire it and never use its services again. The reality is this, it’s NOT true that “you get out what you put in” with online dating sites. Because we are most naturally face-to-face creatures and this is most definitely not a natural human communication medium.
Putting too much time and energy into Internet dating only raises our expectations the same way they'd rise if we began networking in person with the same amount of time and energy.
If we spend an equal amount of time befriending other singles in the real world and asking them to help us meet our ideal type of person, slowly but surely we'd begin to get quality dates, but quite the opposite happens with online dating!
Putting a lot of effort into trying to get dates online merely leads to a lot of disappointing dates, the odd good one being a random lucky occurrence, versus the highly accurate, mutual compatibility dates we are expecting due to the fact that we have a list of all kinds of information about prospective dates available to us online.
I hope you've all enjoyed what you've read.
Perhaps you can speak to one another in the comments section.
If I can bring even one lesbian couple together, then the four years I've spent on this blog were well worth it.
Anyway, below is a sample chapter from the book I wrote with the same title as this blog.
Hope you like it, and if you do, please spread the word.
About a half hour before I was going to leave my apartment tonight to meet Tammy, I noticed an email from dad that he had sent a few hours earlier.
The subject was “Have a good time on your date.” The body read: “Don’t be disappointed.” I sat across from Tammy in Starbucks, waiting for the hour I had allotted for this date to go by.