While parents are increasingly more liberal, they might be worried about you dumping their son or daughter when you finish your study abroad, volunteering, or working in Japan. No matter how fluently you speak Japanese, how long you have been living in the country, or how “Japanese” you act, if you do not look Japanese, you cannot become Japanese.
Or even worse, they might be worried about you getting married and taking their child back home to start a life abroad together that is thousands of miles away. Dating a Japanese person will be different than dating someone from your home country. It's not bad; some people think it is a great advantage.
• With strangers: Japan is a very homogenous society, so people will stare. However, it would be foolish to expect to be “treated Japanese.” Breakups in Japan are less like a breakup and more like a gradual fading away.
Relationships vary by country and so do expectations for dating. Teaching and living abroad shouldn't mean putting your love life on hold.
On the other hand, dating someone from another culture can be extra rewarding.
Understanding and embracing differences is the first step towards successful dating in Japan.
One of the first things you might discover about dating in Japan is the fact that a majority of information about Westerners comes from American movies and TV shows.
This is especially true during casual encounters with a Japanese person who has never dated a foreigner. Some of the common presumptions you might want to watch out for are: If you are not comfortable taking your relationship to the next step (especially in terms of physically) make that clear!
Intercultural relationships often have difficulties when it comes to communication.
You don’t have to talk about all of these things with each dating partner, but you should definitely think about it especially with one that seems like it could evolve into a relationship. Are you looking for a casual hookup, a friend with benefits, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or a future marriage partner?
As mentioned before, you probably shouldn't actually discuss this, but early on in the dating process, you should figure out what you want from the relationship. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, set some long-term dates, like going to Sky Tree on Christmas or a romantic getaway to Okinawa during summer vacation.
If you are looking for something casual, keep it casual and avoid meeting friends and family. What happens when your study abroad, volunteer, or internship experience is over?