They believe that the payoff will be so great in the end, that they take time to get to know you and ask questions about your life as to create the illusion that they really care. After woo-ing the woman who he has most likely met via a social network or dating site, he then begins his pity story which usually revolves around one of these few scenarios: *I am deployed with no family and I have a hard time getting what I need over here * I am trying to come home on leave and I don’t have the money to do so * I went AWOL and need money to get out of this situation * I need you to apply for leave on my behalf (which require a fee) because I really want to come and see you If this has happened to you then you are officially being not only catfished but conned, duped ,and scammed.
This is nothing but another version of the Nigerian Money Scams. If the fake soldier starts giving you the story about how he needs things he can’t get “over there” but wants you to send money instead of a care package that is room for suspicion.
Military members get paid and have access to the majority of what they need even in combat zones. If the fake soldier says he needs you to sign papers for him to come on leave and send a fee that is an automatic red flag.
Fortunately, for me I was lucky he (my husband) was exactly he said he was and did all of the above…well except for the hiding me in the woods part!
Unfortunately , for many it doesn’t turn out that way.
I am astounded at the number of emails I have still been getting from women who are are engaged or dating so called military personnel whom they have never seen and have only talked to online.
The dating online part isn’t even really the shocking part for me.
What is shocking- is these fake military personnel who are leading naive ladies into believing they have found their soulmates, and getting rich off of them too.
The scheme these fakers are running is a pretty easy one because most women are sensitive and loving creatures who want to fall in love.
We are easy prey, and when you have a man saying everything you want to hear it’s easy to get lost in emotion.
The fake soldier comes across real by using fallen troops pictures and names. That scheme has also taken on the term Catfished, thanks to the popularity of the MTV Show based on people who are seeking to find out if the people they have become romantically involved with online; are really who they say they are.
I met my husband online eleven years ago long before the days of Facebook and Twitter.
In fact Myspace was probably still in beta and was where it was happening at.
However we met on [email protected] before it became and when it was free.