Second, you'll probably be somewhat inebriated and not in a position to make the best choices.
And finally, the choices you do have will be severely limited by the simple determinants of time, space and location.
Once you admit that there's nothing wrong with actively looking for a man, you'll realize that online dating is the most sensible, time-efficient way to find him.
Nowhere more than in the world of online dating does perception trump reality in the realm of love. According to a study from researchers at Cornell University, 90 percent of online daters do lie. A bit of deception about age is common, but only a 1.5 percent deviation.
There we begin falling in love based on everything but actual human contact. Women tend to shave about 5 percent off their weight, and men tend to add about 1 percent to their height.
Most people limit their online lying in anticipation of one day meeting their match, and the fear of getting caught.
That said, I have to admit that I once got taken in by a serial liar on
In his photograph he looked like a 35-year old professor with a full, reddish beard, blue eyes and a wry smile.
He went to the best schools, had an interesting, high-paying job, lived in a great neighborhood, and wrote sparkling, funny emails. Suddenly, I was faced with a man who was 15 years older than his picture, his reddish hair turned white, his lean figure gone pudgy.Not only that, he wasn't confident, witty or even particularly nice.But I couldn't let go of the man that I had constructed in my head, so I stayed.As someone who found her significant other online, it's hard for me to understand why some people -- particularly women -- won't take the plunge.I mean, they'll pay their bills, buy their shoes and even earn an advanced degree online, but they refuse to find a gosh-darned date there.So I decided to do some asking around to find out why so many of us women are afraid to say yes to online dating.