In this first installment, we’ll delve into the following: We’ll have more podcasts later.Oh, and perhaps you can help us with something: We’re trying to think of a snappy name for the podcasts Rob and I do together, and we’re coming up blank so far.So if you can think of a title that’s witty and not obscene, do let us know.
I think dating, even at the very beginning, should be based on and driven by the sparks, connection, and chemistry that can only come from face-to-face interactions.
My last girlfriend “on paper” would have seemed a horrible fit for me, and I never would have agreed to meet her if I just read a dating profile of her.
Many reading this blog might agree properly engaging a woman to get a date should be about exchanging personal thoughts and feelings that leave both of you vulnerable to each other.
Moreover, genuine revelations must organically emerge in reaction to the other person’s vibe.
With communication constrained to typing into a computer and writing and reading “personal” profiles read by thousands of people, online dating makes starting genuine emotional exchanges difficult if not impossible, forcing everyone to set up first dates in canned, mechanical ways. Inserting additional online steps in front of that makes the process longer, more cumbersome, and less accurate (lots of mediocre first dates).
Why would a man with the mojo and talent to approach and emotionally engage attractive and interesting women in person have any need to go online?Whatever energy I might otherwise invest in my cyberspace game I’d rather invest getting my real-world, face-to-face game in shape so I can approach and meet more women in the real world. I share many of the same philosophical complaints with online dating as you.I do think it embodies some of the I-can-have-it-all-now tendencies of the digital age, and there is no match for in-person chemistry.I’m old enough to remember a time when online dating was this new, semi-taboo novelty.It was seen as a bastion for awkward singles who couldn’t find a date in person.Which, coincidentally, is when I first tried it back in the late 90s/early 00s.