Psoriasis is a small word, but comes with baggage that takes up all the space in the heart. Which means I have had psoriasis for over 20 years.
At a time when there were no resources such as the internet and little or no awareness about psoriasis, the reaction to psoriasis can only be imagined.
The image issues felt normal - the sheer panic and anxiety before a night out felt normal.
I remember distinctly going on dates after dates and not being able to enjoy it as there was a nagging fear lodged at the back of my mind, “Oh!
I wonder if he is looking at my hands and thinking…
” Other times, I wondered if I was looking sexy enough since I’m not wearing a short dress…
During college, Karina Rabin’s peers called her ‘Polka Dot.” She says they ridiculed her because of her widespread psoriasis patches. “It was very hard to date.” Her love life may have been hard to navigate all those years ago, but the Orange County, California-based entrepreneur’s dating woes are in the past.
She met a man who wasn’t put off by her skin condition.
Instead of running for the hills, she says he asked her smart questions and did his own research on psoriasis, an autoimmune disease that causes raised, red, scaly patches on the skin.
Today, the two are happily married and even run their own small business together.
Or “Oh, I’m sure he is only being nice to me now, wait until I have to tell him about the patches…
No wait, what if he asks me first if there is something wrong with me”.
I suffered from low self esteem and felt I had no say in whom I date. I felt grateful when somebody gave me a second glance - even when I knew they were not right for me. We all deserve to enjoy a date and not think of the evening like a ticking time bomb, where in the end, if the date is going well, a revelation needs to come – “Oh, by the way, I have Psoriasis”, and then just wait to see how it unravels.