That they are lonely because although they have lots of friends they have not thought of contacting them or inviting them.Ridiculous And this comes from a so called hepful website which has cost a lot of money and taken a lot of time to put together.
The thing about giving advice is that everyone thinks they can do it, and when they think they will get their name plastered over a newspaper, magazine or website they are even more keen.
The thing which makes no sense is that when I advertised on official job sites I was inundated with people insisting they were suitable but who had no talent.
You could say that if they are not bright enough to advise others they are not bright enough to realise this and need me to point it out. Yet you could tell by the way they contacted me and the things they said that they knew they were inadequate. Because they tell me that they cannot get a job, they were fired from Mc Donalds for being inadequate and slow and turning up late all the time, they want a job that pays a lot more than that but where they can work from home and feel important. Wanting to fill the blanks when nothing is being said.
Not one word about being a capable person, not one word about caring for others, it is all about them. It does not mean that they value your opinion or want to hear it.
They want an easy life, and they make this clear, but this has nothing to do with being any good at solving problems or advising people. One of the give aways was that when you asked them what proves they are capable of helping others by being an agony aunt they would say well my friends come to me with their problems and tell me all about it. And people are always quick to ask for free opinions, that means nothing. The majority of people who come to you for free advice are not really wanting it at all, they just want to complain and get a sympathetic ear, they want someone to agree with them, they do not want you to work things out for them but to accept they have worked it out for themselves.
If the complainer tells you that her boyfriend beats her up every day she does not want you to criticise himor to tell her what to do, deep down she knows all of this, she wants you to tut in the right places, make her feel better in the here and now. She may insist that he has promised not to do it again, or he pays the bills and she needs his money, but whatever the reason is it is up to her.
She simply feels better if she lets off steam or gets sympathy about it inbetween the many bad bits! And if you criticise him she will feel worse, she does not want to be reminded that she is needy and returning to a bad man, something she will do anyway.
She has to tell herself that he is really a good man and he really loves her as this makes it more bearable.
If you tell her that he is really a good man she will think you are terrific, because you make her feel better about the situation and herself even though you are lying.
Being an agony aunt is not always about telling the truth.
It can be about giving sympathy or telling lies to make someone feel better.