Here is what I wrote back to her: First of all, I’ve had EVERY bad dating experience you can possibly imagine.I’ve had women write me nasty emails, insult me over the phone, ignore my phone calls, stand me up, refuse to thank me for dinner, refuse to reciprocate in bed… And yet I still run around as this super dating advocate, because I believe it is the best prospect to find someone special.If you choose to wait for lightning to strike until you go on another date with the “right” guy, you might be waiting a long, long time. Listen, you might think I’m nuts to keep on preaching positivity. All I know is that it’s freakin’ HARD to meet someone.
I was curious as to what your real opinion is of online dating.
I did meet my girlfriend online, but after a year of painful struggle, meaning hardly any dates despite being educated, employed, and reasonably attractive.
Friends of both genders tell that their experiences have been hard in different ways.
My guy friends (also educated, attractive) complain that they get no responses and female acquaintences tell me that they get so many emails, etc, that they don’t know where to start-and often do nothing.
They don’t have time to “date around” several times a week.(actually neither would I). Women, being more vulnerable than men, are more hesitant to date online, so you get a situation where there’s a lot more men than women.
Aside from my own luck and the trendy radio ads and sexy commercials, it seems as if no one’s happy.
Dear Geoff, Glad to hear you found someone special, and even happier that you spoke up.
Most of the people that write about online dating write about what’s wrong with it. I mean, that’s what news is – emphasize the bad, misery loves company, etc.
Turn on the TV and it’s not about kittens being saved from trees, but drive-by shootings.