Yesterday my good friend was complaining about a string of lame blind dates she'd just been on (she is online dating). Sometimes I'm just happy to put on my fancy high heels.
I could tell she was losing sight of the point (understandably), but in her frustration, she was blaming all the guys—and the universe. The fastest way to kill a blind date is to walk in expecting Bradley Cooper and then feel nothing but disappointment when it's someone other than Bradley Cooper (and I guarantee it will be). To make sure you don't build up the date in your mind too much, stay busy beforehand. On my last blind date, I was excited to be dressed up, and I arrived in a good mood.
I told her that she plays a part in some of this, and that she could have better dates if she changed a few things on her end. Even if you had an amazing, two-hour phone conversation and his online profile was custom written for you, do not expect Mr. (It didn't hurt that three different guys checked me out before I'd even hailed a cab outside my building. You can't know everything about a person up front, so don't be quick to judge.
As long as you're not a total misanthrope, you're capable of enjoying almost any human being—you just have to keep an open mind. You'll fixate on whatever it is that's bugging you.
Patti Stanger says not to drink more than two cocktails because you need clarity. Get up and get him involved in an activity you enjoy no matter what—pick out songs on the jukebox, play pool, order ice cream, take a walk, or place bets on the teams playing on the bar's TV. If you forget everything else, just remember to have zero expectations and an open mind.
I agree about the clarity; you don't want to sober up after a month and realize you're not attracted to the guy. Why worry he'll be too good-looking and won't think you're cute? I always have a good time when I'm on a date with no expectations.
However, two drinks isn't much, especially if it's a long date.
Online dating has jumped among adults under age 25 as well as those in their late 50s and early 60s.
The share of 18- to 24-year-olds who use online dating has roughly tripled from 10% in 2013 to 27% today.
Online dating use among 55- to 64-year-olds has also risen substantially since the last Pew Research Center survey on the topic.
Today, 12% of 55- to 64-year-olds report ever using an online dating site or mobile dating app versus only 6% in 2013.
Depending on your tolerance, who's driving, and whether or not you eat, I think it's okay to have three or four.6. If I sense a guy is not interested in me, I don't focus on that fact (it won't help anybody).