Author of “BABY BOOMER MEN LOOKING FOR LOVE – The Last Dance” and soon to be released “BABY BOOMER WOMEN 1,001 FIRST DATES – Love-On-Line (L-O-L)”
Why some men still keep their online dating profile active.
After finding love and a serious relationship some men still keep their online dating profile active.
The explanations for this are pretty lame but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.
If it's not a passive-aggressive way of telling me we have broken up, what is it?
SO HELP ME UNDERSTAND You are consciously and deliberately advertising to the entire (FEMALE) population that you are available.
Available to speak to women who believe you are unattached, that you look something like your 'thinner version' photograph, and that you are free (AVAILABLE) to engage in romance, possibly with her, at least on line.
Women, if you find yourself in this situation, that your boyfriend is not only still on line but he’s been active "within an hour," I think you might have to adddress that you have a problem. Maybe he just likes having his ego stroked when women flirt with him?
It may not mean that he’s actually cheating on you, meeting other women and having sex with them, but I do think it means he’s not taking your relationship or feelings as seriously as he probably ought to. This is still somewhat problematic because he isn't exactly in a position to be getting stroked by other women, now is he? All the reasons I could think of for a man to keep a profile active while he’s in a relationship. He likes to flirt with strange women and be flirted with.3.
The primary reason to keep an online dating profile active is simple: TO MEET NEW WOMEN. None of these appears condusive to long term happiness--or is it just me? He may not flirt but likes the idea that women are looking at him. He doesn’t understand that he’s in a committed relationship.5.
He’s looking to meet or talk to women for some other reason… First, consider that perhaps he’s not as committed to your relationship as he says or you thought.
This doesn’t mean that he’s going to cheat on you or break up immediately but it can’t be a good thing. I think it’s reasonable for you to feel uncomfortable with this and also reasonable for you to ask him to stop. See if subtlety is appreciated--if he gets the hint or if he just winks back.